How to self-actualize with the help of superconsciousness. My story. How can we truly fulfill ourselves?

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“Being the richest man in the cemetery is not important to me. Going to bed telling yourself that you've done something wonderful is what's really important."
Steve Jobs

What is "self-realization"?

Self-realization is the disclosure of one's unique personal potential, abilities, inclinations and talents.

• Self-realization can be in the profession.
• Self-realization can be in a relationship
• Self-realization can be a hobby
• Self-realization can be in socially significant activities
• And, of course, we are talking about self-realization, like men.

Moreover, for me, self-realization is primarily the answer to the question: “how”. It is in the answer to the question “how to do” that the true individuality of a person is manifested, no matter what he does. And only then: “what to do”, “where” or “with whom”.

What is "creation"?

Creation is an attitude to everything from the point of view of construction (as opposed to consumption or, moreover, destruction).

You can create-build:

• enterprise or company (it doesn’t matter if you are hired or not, no matter what position you hold)
• relationships and family
• district, city, country, society
• and, of course, yourself

Creation, as a rule, implies the creation of something new or the harmonization of an existing one. Naturally, this often requires a creative attitude. Therefore, creation is also a creative approach to everything. In general, “create” and “create” are almost synonymous.

Why do I consider myself entitled to be a Life-mentor in the topic of self-realization and creation?

For me, “self-realization and creation” is something without which I cannot imagine life. Why then everything? Why work? Why relationship? Why wake up and start the day? Well, the answer remains: "for fun." But pleasure without self-realization and creation is some kind of vegetable. In this case, I would find it difficult to name at least one difference between myself and my cat.

Whether I work for hire, for myself, or as the head of my own business; in any field of activity, in any place, in any position, I have always been one way or another engaged in self-realization and creation.

Relations in the family without self-realization and creation for me would also be devoid of meaningful content. It can also be said vice versa - it is the guidelines of self-realization and creation that maintain the necessary degree in our relationship with my wife. We are always interesting to each other and we are interested in building our family and ourselves.

Perhaps the word "interesting" is the key here. I am interested in myself and I am interested in changing something for the better in the world around me. And I am writing this now not to brag, but to infect you with just such an attitude towards my life, so that your life will also change for the better, and you, in turn, will also influence the lives of other people ...

Conditions for self-realization of a man

1. True success in life is a direct consequence of self-realization. Otherwise, even if you have reached great heights, this is something like a "prize for fools", this is too expensive a payment for selling your own life to society, other people's ideas and expectations. Think about it. Is such a success worth such a sacrifice?

2. Money received without self-realization and creation is a comfortable animal existence instead of a truly happy life. In contrast, money received as a result of self-realization and creation is a source of satisfaction from life in all its manifestations. The choice is yours.

3. A prerequisite for self-realization is knowledge, understanding, feeling oneself, as well as respect for one's values, desires and aspirations. At the heart of self-realization is the desire to Be Yourself, to follow one's individuality, to live one's life, not someone else's. Learn to distinguish your from not yours, instead of following the generally accepted standard patterns.

4. As for self-realization in the profession, of course, it's good if you know what exactly you want to do in life. However, if you have not yet found your life's work, the main thing is to do any business in your own way, following your own style. There is a saying: "a talented person is talented in everything", I would clarify it - "the one who strives to be himself and follow his individuality is unique in everything."

5. If you feel capable of something, but so far you know little about it, draw up a plan for your development, set goals, deadlines, tasks. Strive to learn from true masters in this matter, try to be close to them, even if for this you need to work for free or clean the floors in their offices or workshops. Masters are not born - masters are made. Abilities without hard work and self-improvement are a resource that quickly exhausts itself.

6. Self-realization of a man without a relationship with a woman, without a family, cannot be complete. Communication with a woman always poses a lot of self-development tasks for a man. To be a man next to a woman, sometimes you need to master no less skills than in any profession: listen, hear, understand, accept, negotiate, make decisions, take responsibility, care, be gentle, be strong, be independent .... In general, in the matter of self-realization of a man, a woman is indispensable and is needed, first of all, precisely for this.

Instruction

You can fulfill yourself at work. This is the easiest and most obvious way to express yourself. In order for you to be able to fully show your own abilities and talents, the profession you have chosen must meet your desires and skills. Unfortunately, finding such a dream job is not at all easy. After all, sometimes the individual himself does not realize which sphere of activity is closer to him. Various tests for professional orientation and contacting an employment agency will help to decide on this issue.

Find a job you love and strive to constantly develop as a professional. Learn a related profession. Expand the scope of your work responsibilities or upgrade your category. If you are really interested in what you do, you will be passionate about your work and will find the opportunity to attend various professional exhibitions, conferences, seminars and trainings.

If you cannot fulfill yourself as an employee, try starting your own business. Think about what you want to do. Remember that a businessman must have good organizational skills and have at least some idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe business that he is going to open. You can get the necessary information on the Internet or in specialized literature.

Make a clear business plan and think through every little thing to make your business burn out. Be prepared to invest a lot of time and effort into your own business, especially at the initial stage. But such work will be a joy to you if you see in your business not only an opportunity to earn money, but also a way to self-realize your talents. To see how your undertaking grows, to develop it, to reap the fruits of your activity is a great pleasure for a businessman.

Not only work can give you the opportunity to fulfill yourself. You can also express yourself through hobbies. Find a hobby that really brings you pleasure. This can be, for example, collecting, caring for houseplants, creativity, scientific activities or learning foreign languages. The main thing is that you feel that your internal resources are involved in the process of doing what you love, and get joy from it.

Another way to realize yourself is to become a parent. This is especially true for women. Some of the fair sex find their calling in their own children. They educate them, take care of the health, well-being and development of babies and find simple maternal happiness in these matters.

You can find a way to express yourself at home. Improve the space in your apartment, find new interior solutions. Believe me, taking care of home comfort can bring pleasure not only to its end result, but also to the process itself. You can also find the joy of self-expression in cooking. Cook new dishes, fantasize, improve old recipes, gather your family and friends for gourmet dinners.

Sports activities are also a great opportunity for self-realization. Improve your own body, make it healthier, stronger, more resilient, more beautiful. Choose the sport that brings you maximum pleasure and plunge into the world of new sensations.

Quite a popular statement: "You can become whoever you want to be." That's just "desired being" does not mean that it is useful and what this person really needs. It's like summoning a genie from a bottle so that he fulfills his deepest desire. He fulfills it - but it has become even worse than it was.

Or a more everyday example. It's like poke your children in all desires. If it reaches for the "shiny little thing" with snot and shouts: "Hotsiu." It does not mean that a shiny little thing is good for a child. (Brilliant can be: like daddy's watch, so sharp polished knife).

The fact of the matter is that the fulfillment of our desires, desires, aspirations is not the way to reveal our true nature. But in order to come to such a conclusion, a person first needs to realize a dozen of his primary desires (desires, dreams, etc.), especially in our age of anti-authoritarianism. When we don’t trust anyone or anything, but we are so greedy for everything brilliant.

Several ways to be truly realized

But before. All of the following: snatched from different sources that may contradict each other.

To know the right path, you may first need to go the wrong way.

How to be real?

1. Choose a big (higher) goal

Higher ones can be both very mercantile and "spiritual". For example: “I want me and my family to be the richest people”, or “Become the wisest”. The concept is higher, conditional, what is higher for one is conceited for others. But not the point.

You just need to choose any goal that is pleasant for you, so that it is very difficult, for life. And strives for it.

But how, then, is my true potential realized? Quite simply: in order to achieve something worthwhile, you will have to put in a lot of work on self-improvement. In which everything is manifested, both positive and weak sides.

Achieving the goal is this: 1. Overcoming obstacles (including overcoming one's weaknesses of the personality). 2. The use of certain efforts (part of these forces are your positive qualities, talents, etc., which in turn helps them develop even more).

2. Choose an ideological direction

Everything is the same as above. The whole mechanism of self-realization is the same, but instead of a goal - a direction. This is following a certain idea, ideology, something that is difficult to feel, touch with your hands, put in your pocket.

For instance. Become a communist so that everyone becomes equal. (Sounds stupid now, but once upon a time people died for this idea worse than Christian martyrs). Or democracy around the world. (I wonder why this idea doesn't seem silly? Or does it? US foreign policy immediately comes to mind.)

Or. The ultimate development of one's abilities or talents. Surely you have such a talent. It is impossible to be perfect, but to achieve the maximum ...

3. Become an adherent of a certain “school of life”

Man is stupid, stupid and weak. Therefore, it is very difficult for him to understand what he is, who he is and why he is. It’s like trying to explain to a child why he can do something, but this is “low” ... He still won’t understand until he grows up. And in order for him to grow up, he needs both physical food and “correct” education.

So it is with adepts (followers) - they need an eye and an eye until they themselves realize that this is the very thing for them - “true potential”.

In this case, you are required to choose a religion for yourself (a certain “spiritual school” that “Knows ...”), or let the religion choose you. It contains both the "truth" and the paths to it.

4. Experience life the hard way

All of the above rests on the fact that a person is reasonable and knows that he is such. But animals don’t build temples for themselves, don’t visit websites, and live quite normally. Can a man play with his brains?

Maybe life already contains all the answers? In this case, live as you live, the answers will appear themselves. And your task is not to look for an extra burden in the form of mental constructions (think less on general questions for which there are no answers.)

There is an interesting oriental remark: "The unfortunate seek the gods and worship them, but the gods themselves watch the happy and help them in everything."

Hmm, after reading all of the above: at least in many cases, in order to be realized, you first need to decide on a choice ...

Many people dream of a beautiful and comfortable life, but not everyone makes efforts to realize their desires. They write down goals, make plans, and strive to fulfill them. According to statistics, only a small number of people achieve their plans, and all the rest stop their actions at the first failure and wait for the right moment, which is unknown when.

Then people begin to blame the whole world and regret the wasted time. Why is this happening? There are 12 reasons why a person cannot realize himself in life.

1. Living in a comfort zone

Many people are afraid to get out of their own, they live “well” there. If you are constantly lazy to get down to business, lie on the couch, stay up late on social networks, and then sleep until 11 o'clock in the afternoon, then naturally your life will not change in any way. It is necessary to perform completely opposite exercises for 21 days. During this time, you will develop the habit of acting, and you will quickly get out of your comfort zone.

2. Complain about and without it

A person is very often dissatisfied with many things that surround him - appearance, clothing, personal items. Your whining will not lead to anything good, unless you become even more dissatisfied with everything. Instead, find an occupation that brings good money and pleasure.

3. Indulging your bad habits

Everything that happens to a person is the result of his actions. Poverty, illness and other troubles depend only on ourselves. Alcohol, smoking, fatty and unhealthy foods kill not only our health, but also the chances of a normal and bright life. Get rid of bad habits and go in for sports.

4. Fear of not having friends

You very often worry about the fact that you do not have friends who share your interests. Believe me, none of the scientists shared their developments with anyone, they only had subordinates. You should never bother about this, because real friends will support you even if they don’t like your hobby.

5. Procrastination

Many mistakenly think that there is plenty of time for action, but this is a big mistake. The more you mess around, the less chance you have to succeed. Time flows like water, and it becomes less and less. Don't sit, don't think, start acting, after all.

6. Bad communication

Each person has such acquaintances or friends who carry a lot of negativity. Communication with them will not lead to anything good. Such people, splashing out all their negativity on you, take away your energy. You should avoid such comrades or try to keep your communication to a minimum. Instead, meet successful and positive people.

7. Talented are not born

Looking at your idols, you often think that he is endowed with talent at birth, but this is absolutely not the case. Behind each such person lies a huge work and a lot of effort. With great desire and perseverance, you can reach great heights and be no less talented than other celebrities.

From a very young age, a child must be taught to be independent and quick-witted. For this, children's educational games are optimally suited, which lay the foundation for further achievements in life. Talent manifests itself only when it is persistently developed.

8. Shallow knowledge

Without developing, a person does not grow and begins to degrade. Read books on any topic than watch TV. Study the biographies and lives of famous people, be interested in historical facts and other useful things. All this knowledge develops the best qualities in you. And finally, it is pleasant to communicate with an intelligent and educated person.

9. Internet Addiction

Nowadays, almost every second person is constantly on the Web, but there are also people who practically live on it. As soon as they wake up, they immediately check their emails or social networks, and are online until late at night. Such individuals are not something to act, they have no time to live. Of course, this does not apply to those who work on the Internet - freelancers, webmasters and developers. Limit your time on gadgets, because nothing bad will happen if you do not immediately respond to the message, but you can miss a lot in the present.

10. Unwillingness to take responsibility

As children, our parents were responsible for us, but as we get older, we are responsible for our own actions. But losers and weak people shift the blame for their failures onto others. Enough! Pull yourself together. .To realize yourself in life, learn to recognize and accept your mistakes. You are the most important thing in your life, so make your "I" the main thing for you.

11. Fear of getting into an awkward situation

Often we lose people close or dear to us just because we are afraid to say or ask something. Be sure to say or ask what interests you, but try to formulate everything correctly, do not mumble and make long sentences. Remember, you do not know how to read other people's thoughts and are not required to know everything in the world. Do not be afraid to make mistakes, because experience is built on them, and you can realize yourself in life.

12. Waste of money

Money must always be valued. You should not buy various trinkets on sale, which, when you come home, you simply put on a shelf to collect dust. Save on cafes, because it will be much more useful to eat healthy and tasty food at home. Necessarily, for this you can get a notebook or home accounting on a computer.

Any person wants to find himself in this world and feel happy, confident and successful in it. Everyone has their own definition of "happiness" and each for himself this idea - about well-being, formulates in his own way.

The level of claims and the depth of understanding of things are different for everyone, but the essence is the same. It is in human nature to desire to realize oneself in life. But not everyone succeeds, and someone forever remains a slave to circumstances.

Cause of the eclipse

When a person is still a child, he knows his nature intuitively. He does not wonder what to do, but simply does what he WANTS to do. The child does not know how to suppress himself, his creative source is in full swing. They draw, sing, compose, create something with their own hands, invent - without fear and even without thoughts. Just realizes itself FREELY.

As we get older, this natural ability begins to be suppressed. This happens gradually and imperceptibly, but leads to the fact that an adult is no longer able to go beyond the "scheme" that his parents, public opinion or himself imposed on him.

The last one is the worst, it is already an acquired ability - to oppress oneself, accepted by the rational mind. And a person, like an automaton, begins to do in life what is “needed to achieve the goal”, becomes inert. And often these very “goals” are not at all his real desires, but a substitute.

On a conscious level we see only the result of this- internal irritation and a feeling that everything in life seems to be stable and normal, but there is no real joy. It's like you no longer feel alive. Irritation grows, but understanding of the real reason for this state of affairs is deeply suppressed.

This is the main disease of society. Even among those who are engaged in self-development, there are many people who do not see the direction of THEIR real path and cannot even imagine how to find it, how to develop what is given by nature and succeed in this.

We all (usually) find ourselves in a position where we experience parental pressure or the weight of social conditioning. Someone manages to overcome this, while someone remains a slave to circumstances all his life.

On your way, do not pay attention to insults and envy from other people, if this happens, but you still need to read about it.

How to find out what you really want to do more than anything in the world

If you want to truly fulfill yourself in life, you need the courage to do two things - understand what you like to do and implement steps in this direction. Every day, do your best for it. Even if it's just a drop.

• You "don't have time" and it's "impossible". Such words are just a game of the mind.

If you are afraid to let yourself go completely, make sure. Let you have a job, but one that gives you much more time for your main occupation (that's how you should think, because the main thing is your dream, and not at all what seems stable and reliable).

• Get rid of the myth that you can't make a living doing what you're interested in.

This is not true. There is ALWAYS a possibility, but your inert mind prevents you from seeing such prospects, because they do not lie on the surface, and it takes action and inspiration to discover them.

It is inspiration that brings you unexpectedly to those places where you will be helped in this or there will be the necessary information, unexpected decisions. There is no mystic here.

It's just that when you are tuned in to the wave of what you are interested in, you intuitively begin to SEE perspectives and solutions that simply did not fall into your field of vision and did not occur to you before.

• Change your thinking for the better.

It is the work that you like that will help you not only realize yourself as much as possible, but also be financially wealthy. Moreover, to make money so as not to make ends meet, but to be provided at a very good level.

How to wake yourself up

Engage in self-education and self-development, but not forced - for show, but the one you aspire to.

It teaches you to think outside the box. Each such step prompts a new thought that will help you understand and find yourself for real.

Read books that will change your mind. When you read them, draw a parallel with your own life, and much will be revealed to you in understanding yourself.

Here are some of them:

Richard Bach "Jonathan Livingston Seagull", "Illusions. Adventures of the Messiah involuntarily.
Rhonda Byrne "Mystery", "Power".

Amélie Nothombe Fear and Trembling.

Carlos Castaneda Journey to Ixtlan.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery "The Little Prince"

Ray Bradbury, Dandelion Wine, Fahrenheit 451.

1. Every day, find something new to inspire — something that makes you feel ALIVE.

This gives a huge incentive for the desire to act and the strength to act. Do not think about the practicality of this - enjoy the process like a child.

Draw, dance, create something creative (after all, you can create in any field), realize what you really wanted to, but always put off. Listen to music, contemplate nature. Immerse yourself completely in this process.

2. Don't wait for someone to make you happy.

The people you love dear to your heart are the priceless gift of life. But until you reveal your potential, it is useless to wait for someone from outside to fill this void. And you will still be eaten by dissatisfaction. You can fill yourself only from the inside, and then it will be happiness to share this joy with your loved ones.

3. Try to do something that you have never dared to do before for fear that you will not succeed.

It may turn out that your talent lies in a plane that you could not even imagine. This can only be determined in practice.

Your compass is FEELINGS. You can't confuse them with anything. When your soul sings and rejoices, when it overflows with joy from what you are doing - this is the main criterion for the correctness of the chosen direction.

Take action. Success is a little theory and a lot of practice. No one will do this for you, no one will tell you what your gift and purpose are.

Let this be an adventure from which you will emerge victorious and find your true self. Good luck!