Tests for the child's readiness for school. Tests for children and parents Test where your child is sitting

6-7 years is a crucial period for the child and his parents, because it is at this age that the preschooler is most actively preparing for school. The child is already more organized, he has mastered some numbers and letters, learned to think logically, to find consistency and unnecessary things in a chain of objects. Is your child ready for school and how to check it? Here are some tests for you that will show the preschool child's readiness for school, identify weaknesses and indicate to parents what more work needs to be done.

The tests will also help parents of "winter" children who are thinking about sending their child to school this year or next.

What a 6-7 year old child should know and be able to do when entering school:

1. Your name, patronymic and surname.
2. Your age and date of birth.
3. Country where he lives, city and home address.
4. Surname, name, patronymic of parents.
5. The professions of mom and dad.
6. Determine the time by the clock.
7. Names of seasons, months, days of the week, time of day.
8. Weather conditions.
9. Primary colors.
10. Names of pets, wild animals and their cubs.
11. Be able to combine objects into groups: transport, clothing, shoes, birds, vegetables, fruits, berries.
12. Know and be able to tell poetry, folk tales, works of children's writers.
13. Distinguish and correctly name geometric shapes.
14. To navigate in space and on a sheet of paper (right, left, top, bottom), write a graphic dictation.
15. To be able to fully and consistently retell a listened or read story, compose a story based on a picture.
16. Remember and name 6-8 objects, pictures, words.
17. Divide words into syllables by the number of vowels.
18. Determine the number, sequence and place of sounds in a word.
19. Know and be able to write printed letters of the Russian alphabet.
20. It is good to use scissors, a pencil: draw lines without a ruler, draw geometric shapes, carefully paint over and shade.
21. Know the numbers. Count from 1 to 10, restore a number series with gaps. Countdown from 5 to 1, perform counting operations within 10.
22. Know the concept of "more, less, equally".

Express test in pictures to determine readiness for school:

You can get a general picture of your child's readiness for school by taking into account the above and answering the following questions:

• Can a child combine several objects into one group according to the main characteristic? For example, a car, a bus, an electric train is a transport; apples, pears, plums - fruits.
• Can you identify an extra item, for example, in a chain: "plate, saucepan, brush, spoon"?
• Can a simple pattern accurately copy?
• Can you tell a story from a picture, highlight a main idea, trace connections and a sequence of events?
• Can you describe any incident that happened to him?
• Is it easy for him to answer questions from adults?
• Does the child know how to work independently, to compete in completing tasks with others?
• Is he included in the play of other children?
• Is it taking priority when the situation calls for it?
• Does the child have a desire to look at books on their own?
• Does he listen carefully when someone reads to him?

Another book of tests: Olesya Zhukova "Tests for checking speech and reading skills"

Pictures can be downloaded and printed.

Quite a voluminous and clever book - "Tests for future first graders". You can download it by clicking on the link. The PDF file will open in a new window.

And it is very important: a preschool child is ready for school if he can answer the question "why does he go to school?"

All parents think about who their baby will become in the future. Naturally, when a child is small, it is still difficult to talk about the choice of a profession for him. But, nevertheless, it is possible to determine its features, which are the choice of the child.

With the help of this test, parents, even in preschool age, will be able to determine what inclinations and inclinations their child shows. This will help to adjust the upbringing process and set the right direction for the further development of the child.

Of the two statements proposed in each paragraph, the child must independently choose only one. If it is difficult for the child to answer all the test questions at one time, then divide the work on the test into 2-3 times so that no more than 5-6 questions can be asked at one time).

a) I like being in different places, traveling;

b) I don't like being in different places, traveling.

a) I like to walk in the rain;

b) when it's raining outside, I like to sit at home more.

a) I like to play with animals;

b) I don't like playing with animals.

a) I would like to become a participant in an interesting adventure;

b) the very possibility of any adventure scares me.

a) I would like everyone to have all their desires fulfilled;

b) I understand that all the desires of people cannot be fulfilled.

a) I don't like to drive fast.

b) I like to drive fast.

a) when I grow up, I would not want to become a boss;

b) when I grow up, I dream of becoming a boss.

a) I do not like to argue with others;

b) I'm not afraid to argue, because it can be very interesting.

a) I sometimes do not understand adults;

b) I always understand adults.

a) I would not want to get into a fairy tale;

b) I would like to get into a fairy tale.

a) I would like life to be fun,

b) I would like (a) my life to be calm.

a) I slowly enter cold water when I swim in the sea or river,

b) I try to jump into cold water as quickly as possible.

a) I don't really like music,

b) I really love music.

a) I think that being rude and rude is bad,

b) I think it's bad to be a boring and boring person.

a) I love cheerful people,

b) I love calm people.

a) I would be scared to hang-glider or parachute jump,

b) I would gladly try (a) to fly a hang glider or jump with a parachute.

When your child has answered all the questions, check with the key.

1) a. 5 B. 9) a 13) b.
2) a. 6) b. 10) b. 14) b.
3) b. 7) b. 11) a. 15) a.
4) b. 8) b. 12) b. 16) b.

If the answer matches the key, then give one point. Then count the results.

If your child has typed from 11 to 16 points- he always strives for new experiences. Everyday, routine, monotonous life does not suit him. Accordingly, a profession that requires monotonous work is unlikely to seem attractive to him. Your child is risk-averse and can excel in the creative field. As you grow older, try to offer him activities that are associated with frequent changes in impressions.

If your child has dialed from 6 to 10 points- he perfectly knows how to control himself. He is undoubtedly attracted by new information. But he will never allow himself to take risks. Your child is discreet and judicious. An area of ​​activity that requires thoughtfulness and calm behavior is perfect for him. The child may decide on a risky act, but first he will think it over properly. Almost any field of activity can suit him (of course, depending on his own interests). He will be able to excel in such professions that require a change of impressions, and in those associated with monotonous orderly work.

If your child has dialed from 0 to 5 points- he is very careful and prudent. He does not strive for something new, novelty frightens him. He is contraindicated in areas of activity associated with a frequent change of impressions. Your child will be able to succeed where perseverance, thoughtfulness and attentiveness to the process of activity are needed.

4. Self-assessment test (for children)

Another pronounced risk factor is associated with such a phenomenon as inadequate, that is, not corresponding to the real capabilities of the child's self-esteem. At the same time, in children and adolescents at risk, self-esteem is usually underestimated. This is understandable: most often a person gets into dependence who considers himself weak, incapable of independent actions, stupid, etc.
According to the definition given in the psychological dictionary, self-esteem is interpreted as "a person's assessment of himself, his capabilities, qualities and place among other people." And further: "The relationship of a person with others, his criticality, exactingness to himself, attitude to success and failure depend on self-esteem." Low self-esteem is the psychological complex of a loser. The first phrase about any mistake or failure in people with low self-esteem is "Well, what could I do?" From the outside, such people are usually betrayed by causeless fussiness, the desire to hide behind the back of others, self-doubt and confusion, and even panic at any surprises.
We add that there is nothing good in high self-esteem either. Therefore, the psychotherapeutic task is to bring self-esteem to a normal level corresponding to the real capabilities of the individual (the ideal option is the upper bar of these capabilities), that is, in some cases to increase, in others - to lower.
The simplest ways to find out the level of a child's self-esteem are quite accessible to any parent. To do this, it is not at all necessary to contact a specialist. Here is one of these methods available to all. Draw a 10-step ladder on a blank piece of paper (for older teens, this might just be a vertical scale from 0 to 10).
Give your child the following instruction:
- Imagine that on the top step of this ladder are the best children in the world - the smartest, most beautiful, etc., they succeed, their parents love them, the teachers will not praise them. And on the lowest rung, those who skip school, study poorly, cannot succeed in anything, do not listen to their parents. All the other children settled on other steps between these extremes. Some are higher, others are lower. Where do you think you belong on the stairs at the moment?
If your child has placed himself on one of the 3 lower rungs, this is an alarming symptom. Having seen such a picture, ask yourself the question: when and why did I last say to my son (daughter) "you are doing well with me!"? If this happened a long time ago, or if you find it difficult to remember anything like that, it’s bad. It seems that there is an urgent need to revise something in the relationship with the child, and perhaps in the family structure as a whole. And immediately! Otherwise, you can find yourself in the very situation when the elbow is close, but you won't bite!
How to fix the matter? First - in no case do not rush to convince the child, assuring that he (she) is the best in the world. The result will be just the opposite. First, they won't believe you. Secondly, they will see in such a reaction a confirmation of their own insignificance ("apparently, they really consider me an idiot, as soon as they try, like a little one, to frankly hang noodles on their ears and do not take into account my opinion even about myself"). Do not repeat past mistakes. As already mentioned, the relationship must be modified immediately. So, let's take the child's opinion. If you consider yourself very bad, it means that it is so - who knows how not to you. Paradoxically, by doing so, not in words, but in deeds, we give our child the opportunity to feel himself as a value!
Further. If it turns out that we have not said to our son or daughter for a long time: "What a fine fellow you are!" - then we have a great reason to do it. After all, putting himself in a low place, our child has demonstrated not only low self-esteem, but also high criticality, perhaps - objectivity, of course - honesty and courage. Isn't that commendable? Finally, the natural desire to refute the belief of a person dear to us that he is bad, can also (and should!) Be used with benefit. Only in our case it is worth doing this without conflicting with it.
- You say that teachers scold you - it's true. Is there any teacher who scolds less than others? Or maybe someone does not swear at all? Have you ever been praised by your teachers? And for what exactly?
Taking the child's opinion of himself as bad, you need to focus his attention on the good that, of course, he has, on those successes that were. It is not simple. Ready-made schemes do not work here. Play and deceit are inadmissible. A sincere interest is needed. To achieve this and be spontaneous, set yourself the task: in a conversation, learn about some new achievement for you or an unexpected quality of the child. Notice how his face will change with a fond memory. It will literally brighten.
Well, what if our child has settled down in a businesslike manner on one of the 3 upper steps? Here it is useful, before drawing any conclusions, to ask a few clarifying questions (in general, you should never hesitate to ask a question. Any, even minor, misunderstanding can entail consequences). Well, for example: what specific data confirm the right to a high place? In what areas are you particularly successful? Have you achieved perfection in them or are there opportunities for growth? Do you have any disadvantages? Is there someone among your classmates or acquaintances who is better than you? What do you think of those who are not so successful?
You can ask any other questions as well. The main thing is to clarify: the child sincerely believes that his objective achievements give the right to a high position and at the same time is able to critically evaluate himself, or is he just subjectively convinced of his own exclusiveness? In the first case, with a respectful attitude towards peers, there is no reason for concern, even if the merits are somewhat exaggerated. But in the second, as well as with low self-esteem, there is a reason to think and reconsider the relationship.
At the same time, as in the case of low self-esteem, the main thing is not to succumb to impulses and not to make sudden movements. Regardless of the results of our research, in some cases it is useful and even necessary to note that the child is in some way superior to his comrades. For example, a participant in sports competitions cannot do without self-confidence and faith in victory. And so that the little champion does not become proud, it is necessary to remind each time:
- Yes, you are great, you really are better than many on the treadmill. But only on a treadmill. And just because your peers run slower does not in any way mean that they deserve less respect than you.
If the matter nevertheless went too far, then the best way out of the situation seems to be: to give the child the opportunity to be convinced from his own experience that such a high self-esteem does not correspond to the real state of affairs. That is, as if recognizing his exclusivity, to provide an opportunity to act independently in those situations where such exclusivity is necessary to achieve success (except, of course, in cases where a real threat to the life and health of the child is possible). Bruises and bumps, in which there is no one to blame but yourself, is the best medicine for overconfidence and arrogance.
Such practical admonition by real life can be successfully supplemented with verbal ones. Again, without entering into direct contradiction. For this, even not very religious parents can successfully use the Holy Scriptures. Practice shows that many children are reluctant to read the Bible. At the same time, almost everyone, including older adolescents, listens with interest to oral retellings of the Gospel story, examples from the lives of saints. In this form, views, concepts, norms of behavior are often perceived, which are categorically rejected in ordinary communication with adults. For the same purposes, you can use fairy tales, myths, everyday stories that, at first glance, have no relation to the child, but contain a certain morality.

3. Test for parents "Who are you to your child: parent or friend?"

1. Your daughter wants you to switch the TV from a movie you really enjoy to a rock music program. What are you doing?
A) Do you fulfill the request and watch a rock show with her?
B) Do you answer that she will have to wait until the film ends?
Q) Do you promise to buy a portable TV for her?
D) Do you record a film on video?

2. You see in your children:
A) people equal to themselves?
B) those who can help you relive your youth?
Q) small adults?
D) those who constantly need your good advice?

3. You are a middle-aged parent and proud of your hair. What hairstyle do you wear?
A) which one suits you best?
B) which is in line with the latest fashion?
Q) which copies the hairstyle of your favorite rock star?
D) which copies the style of the son (daughter)?

4. Let's talk about your age:
A) Do the children know how old you are?
B) Do you prefer not to recognize or emphasize the age difference between you and your children?
Q) do you hide your age from children?
D) Do you insist that you know more because you are older?

5. How do you dress?
A) imitate the style of a rock star. beloved son (daughter)?
B) try to follow the style of your son (daughter), believing that it will help establish a closer connection between you?
Q) Do you choose the clothes that suits you best?
D) following youth fashion because it makes you feel younger?

6. What will you do if you notice that your teenage son has put an earring in his ear?
A) do you think that this is his own business?
B) will you make fun of his femininity?
C) tell me it's fashionable without wanting him to find you old-fashioned?
D) buy the same earring and put it on to keep your son company?

7. The son (daughter) starts the music at full volume, and you:
A) plug your ears with cotton and do your thing?
B) turn down the volume?
C) put up with it, since he (she) so wants?
D) say it's awesome, when in fact the music literally hits you in the head?

8. In a dispute with children, you:
A) rarely say that they are wrong, fearing that they would reject you altogether?
B) agree to change your position because further dispute is useless?
Q) letting them have the final say because life is so short?
D) admit they are right if they are really right?

9. Children have invited their peers to visit, and you:
A) leave them to themselves: let them do what they want?
B) keep them company, striving to stay on an equal footing?
C) ask guests if they think their parents are as fun as you are?
D) do not interfere in anything, but make it clear that you are always there in case something happens?

10. Children are going to a disco, but they don't take you, and you:
A) are you not surprised, because they know how difficult it is for you to endure these new dances?
B) be sad because you wanted to dance with them?
Q) are offended because they do not want to share their fun with you?
D) Are you upset because you were preparing for such an occasion to flaunt in tight jeans and metal trinkets?

11. When you try to act like you are no older than your children, why do you do this?
A) to be on good terms with children?
B) because it reduces the age difference?
Q) because it can keep the family together longer?
D) because it comes naturally to you?

12. In relation to your children, you:
A) treat them like adults?
B) treat them like little ones?
Q) strive to be their buddy?
D) are you behaving the way your parents should?

Calculate your points:

A B C D

1) 3 0 2 1

2) 3 2 1 0

3) 0 2 1 3

4) 1 3 2 0

5) 2 3 0 1

6) 0 1 2 3

7) 1 0 2 3

8) 3 1 2 0

9) 1 3 2 0

10) 0 2 1 3

11) 3 2 1 0

12) 2 1 3 0

Results: 36 - 25 points: You probably think that you are having fun with your children, trying to be equal with them in everything. But this is now. You can pay later. You are overplaying yourself by taking on the role of companion to your own children, putting them on a par with you. After all, most children understand this very well, and as a result, according to experts, their nervousness increases latently. Just being a buddy isn't enough. Children need guidance. You need to understand that nothing can be done about the age difference; and it is important to realize that it is you who are called upon to provide your children with a sense of perspective and continuity, knowledge of social roots and choice of place in life.
24 - 14 points: Your children do not know exactly how to behave properly with you. You obviously try to indulge them, and then, when you need it, try to enter the role of a parent. Sooner or later, you will want to stop playing buddy in order to show your children a model of mature and responsible behavior. And do not be disturbed by the fear that children will stop loving you if you begin to assert yourself in the role of a parent.
13 - 0 points: Keep it up, Mr. (or Mrs.) average parent! You are desperate to understand and appreciate the ever-changing moods and needs of your children, sometimes you are tempted to give in to them. There is nothing wrong with that, because, apparently, you are reasonable enough and know how to build relationships with children on your terms, not theirs. Quarrels are inevitable, however, children love you, respect you and, most importantly, see you as a loving and reliable parent. If you are lucky, you will expect such family happiness, which allows us to withstand modern life with its stresses and disappointments.

2. What kind of parents are we?

How often do we think about whether we are good parents for our children and whether we are coping with our responsibilities as educators? So what kind of parents are we?
Test yourself by answering the questions: yes, no, sometimes.
1. Do you follow magazine articles, TV and radio programs on parenting? Do you read books on this topic from time to time?
2. Your child did the act. In this case, would you wonder if his behavior was the result of your upbringing?
3. Are you and your spouse unanimous in raising children?
4. If the child offers you his help, will you accept it, even if the case may be delayed, or even stop altogether?
5. Do you only use a form of prohibition or order when it is really necessary?
6. Do you think that consistency is one of the main pedagogical principles?
7. Are you aware that the child's environment has a significant impact on him?
8. Do you recognize that sports and physical education are of great importance for the harmonious development of a child?
9. Will you be able not to order, ask your child about something?
10. Is it unpleasant for you to get rid of the child with phrases like: I don't have time or Wait until I finish the work?

For the answer yes = 2 points;
For the answer sometimes = 1 point;
For an answer no = 0 points.

Less than 6 points. You have a rather vague idea of ​​real upbringing. And although they say that it's never too late to start, we advise you not to rely on this adage and do not hesitate to start improving your education in this area.
7 to 14 points. You do not make major mistakes in upbringing, but nevertheless you should think about something over yourself and your results in this area. And you can start with the fact that the next day off is completely devoted to children, forgetting for a while friends and production problems. And, rest assured, the children will fully reward you for this.
More than 15 points. You are doing quite well with your parenting responsibilities. And nevertheless, can we still improve something a little?
Practice shows that it is very difficult for parents who "suppress" their children and instill "lack of freedom" in them. Meanwhile, the primary self-diagnosis to identify such a generic heritage can be carried out by answering a simple test:
1. Going to bed, do you think about "what the coming day has in store for us"?

2. Do you always follow the traffic rules when crossing the street?
a) always; b) usually; c) almost never;
3. If you are summoned by a leader, you feel anxiety:
a) always; b) sometimes; c) never;
4. Are you often late for an appointment:
a) almost always; b) sometimes; c) almost never;
5. If you hear negative feedback from employees at work, then you:
a) you enter into a conflict right off the bat; b) you react according to the principle: the dog barks - the wind carries; c) silently experiencing an offense;
6. In a dispute, you:
a) firmly and uncompromisingly defend your point of view; b) trying to understand and weigh the opponent's position; c) you prefer to agree, just not to bring the matter to conflict;
7. If you punished your subordinate unfairly, then you:
a) openly admit your mistake and apologize; b) never admit that you are wrong, so as not to undermine your authority; c) without admitting that you are wrong, try to make amends by doing something pleasant;
8.In your opinion, raising children should be guided primarily by:
a) recommendations of specialists; b) common sense and life experience; c) information gleaned from special literature.

Calculate your points. The system is extremely simple:
in questions 1-3 for the answer:
a) - 2 points;
b) - 1 point;
c) - 0 points.

In questions 4-6 for the answer:
a) - 0 points;
b) - 1 point;
c) - 0 points.

Question 7 for the answer:
a) - 0 points;
b) - 2 points;
c) - 1 point.

Question 8 for the answer:
a) - 2 points;
b) - 0 points;
c) - 1 point.

Results:
From 0 to 6 points -You are an absolutely free person. But your freedom often "overflows" and pushes you not to reckon with anyone or anything. It may be worth reminding yourself from time to time that personal freedom is great, but it's better to give way to a steam locomotive!
6 to 10 points. Your freedom is organically combined with common sense and discretion in actions.
Over 10 points. Perhaps it makes sense to think about it, seek the advice of a specialist and undergo a more serious study.
But even if you scored 16 points, then this is not a reason to panic or to renounce having children.
Simply in the event that it is confirmed that you are burdened by a legacy of unfreedom, a legacy of addiction, you need to make efforts to get rid of it for the sake of your future and for the future of your children. Remember: you can really do it! Unlike drug addiction, addiction as a psychological legacy is safely removed in 100% of cases. With the indispensable condition that a person actually wants it. If you leave everything as it is, then the parents are simply unable to truly love their children. For, as Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh said, “... the concept of freedom is inalienable from love. Freedom presupposes such love and such respect for our neighbor that he can be completely himself, and not what we want him to be! .. We must learn to love like this , so that, giving his own life for the good of his neighbor, leave this neighbor freedom to the end to be himself. "
So, the first thing that parents need to do in order to protect their children from the threat of addiction is to get rid of it themselves. But that is not all. Statistics show that a child almost always becomes a drug addict if the mother used drugs during pregnancy and, very often, if alcohol was consumed even in small doses during pregnancy. It is worth knowing and remembering to all expectant mothers and, first of all, to those millions of girls who have already taken a glass, a "joint" or, moreover, to heroin since school.
Many times increases the risk of a child acquiring addiction and the mother's use of certain psychoactive substances, including for medical reasons. If you happen to get sick during pregnancy, be sure to tell your doctor about your situation so that he can prescribe treatment taking this circumstance into account.

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A person's perception of the world is inextricably linked with his character. What we notice around us in the first place can tell a lot about our habits, desires and even hidden fears.

site invites you to take a curious test and find out what you fear at heart. The source of inspiration for its creation was the associations that are still not fully understood.

Just take a look at this picture:

What subject did you immediately notice? It is he who will tell you about what really bothers you.

1. Apple

In many ancient traditions, giving an apple is a confession of love. All because in various cultures, the red apple symbolizes love and passion... If you paid attention to this symbol, then, most likely, you are experiencing deep romantic feelings and are afraid that your feelings will not be reciprocated. Perhaps it's time to open your heart to your beloved and find out the truth, whatever it may be.

2. Child

Children are the embodiment of simplicity, sincerity and innocence... By seeing the boy in the center of the illustration, you connected his image to your “inner child”. Perhaps you still have childhood anxieties that make themselves felt after many years. This can be a resentment against someone from your family, an increased feeling of insecurity, or lack of confidence in your own abilities. In any case, it's time to think about getting rid of these worries.

3. Clowns

The fact that you noticed a couple of clowns, located on both sides of the doorway, indicates a duality of your character, and this, in turn, means mood swings and internal contradictions... Such unpredictability often becomes a hindrance - sometimes you yourself do not know how you will react to what is happening. Obviously, this uncertainty scares you.

4. Spider

Thousands years the spider remains a symbol of doom and destruction, the limbs of all things. If it was he who caught your attention, then, most likely, a difficult situation has developed in your life. A certain threat is hanging over you, because of which you are in a state of nervous tension and are afraid that you will not be able to solve this problem positively.

5. Skull

The illustration contains optical illusion, and if you immediately saw the skull, then that says a lot. Apparently, you are afraid of death and often think about it- it is possible that the anxiety is caused by the loss of a loved one. You may even be experiencing panic attacks. Of course, it's not a fact that your experiences are associated with death, but in their source you clearly see the threat of failure.

Natalia gavrilova
Parents' meeting "Do you know your child"

PLAN FOR A FAMILY LIVING ROOM

in the older group

« Do you know your child?» :

1. Introductory remarks of the educator

2. Conversation "What you need to know about your child",

3. Childish lies.

4. Childhood aggression

5. Why do conflict situations arise between parents and caregivers.

6. Test "What are you parent?»

8. Summary assemblies.

Parent-teacher meeting in the form of a family living room

Target: to form a friendly relationship between parents and children, teachers and pupils, teachers and parents based on trust; develop self-awareness parents and educators, constructive ideas about children (at parents and educators) .

Tasks: to summarize views parents about the individual characteristics of children of primary preschool age, in order to use them in the process of family education; contribute to the formation of the right attitude parents to individual characteristics your child.

Participants: educators, parents, head of MBDOU No. 4 L. M. Antsiborova, pedagogical psychologist N. V. Gaiduk

Leading: educator Gavrilova N.N.

Preliminary work

1. Design posters with quotes: “How a peasant understands the land, how a doctor understands diseases, like a sculptor knows the peculiarities of marble and parents must understand their children. If we are small people, it still does not follow that we are afraid of big things "(V. Hugo," The most valuable thing that can give parents are upbringing»; "Patience is at the heart of all human wisdom."; "Our kids are like candy, but what's inside?".

2. Issue an invitation to meeting, prepare tests for parents, folders with consultations, memos, select background music.

Parents meeting

1. Introductory remarks

Educator 1. Do you know your child? Of course, almost everyone will answer parent... Polish teacher Galina Filipchuk answers this question: “We have been taking care of our children from the first days of life. This is us, parents feed them, dress, bathe, put to bed, teach you to take the first steps and pronounce the first words. It is we who introduce children to the world around them, we console them when they cry, we are on duty at their bedside during illness. Can anyone know the child better than his mother and father - the people closest to him, the most loving and selfless? " Many parents sincerely believe, what his they know the child very well. The smaller our child, the better we really are. know... But already at preschool age, we notice that our judgments about him are becoming more and more approximate. And perhaps in ten - twelve years we will find a stranger in the face of our own child. Naturally arises question: « Do we know our child?» ... Come on, dear parents, we'll talk about it.

2. Study parent drawing and decoding the name of the child

Educator 2 Tell me please, dear parents What is the sweetest word in the world that caresses the ear? What is the most important thing in a child's life from birth? (statements parents) ... This is his name. Sages spoke: "As you name the ship, so it will float"... For every person, his name is the most important and sweetest sound on earth, which sounds like the best music in the world. Our name sometimes drips like rain, sometimes it sounds like it is in the mountains, and sometimes it beats like a drum. Take a look at your children's names. babies are just beginning their life path, and you are already attributing to them those personality qualities that you would like to see in them, or qualities that you did not realize yourself and want to realize through them. Take a look at the portraits children: how they are all different, each of them is individual and unique.

The exercise "Seven-flower flower"

Before you is a seven-flowered flower. Imagine that your baby is gentle. Flowering. Write affectionate derivatives of the name or family nicknames on the petals. On the stem is the name you call your child when you are unhappy with him, be angry with him (2-3 minutes are given to fill the flower.) we give a flower in the name of your baby. Let him lie in the family album, because this is part of his life, and then it will become part of your family.

3. Conversation "What do you need to know about your child?"

Educator 1. What do you need to know about your child? And why do you need to know? There is no definite answer to this question. You need to know everything about the child! And since this is practically impossible, you need to try to be closer to him, to know how he lives, whom and for what he loves, why his mood instantly deteriorates, that he can do it. And what is difficult to cope with, what he believes in and what he doubts, why he lies, etc.

4. Childhood lies

Educator 2. Kids by nature are truly unique, are unique. They have a very flexible mindset that helps to fantasize, imagine. Children's fantasy is rich, individual and very interesting. From time to time, children begin to use their fantasies and inventions for personal purposes. They feel fine and know where to insert their imagination. Lies are a distortion of current events, and fantasies are fictions, an imaginary world. Children can compose convincingly, and you know, what's the secret? The fact that the child himself believes in everything that he says. Everyone knows the story of an optimist and a pessimist. “A glass vessel that is half filled with water. The pessimist will say that the vessel is half empty, and the optimist will say that the vessel is half full. " Every event is perceived by every person differently.

After five years, with the development of inner speech, baby there is the ability to figure in mind what is worth saying and what is not. And even after five years child begins to think about the questions - why are adults angry with him today? was it possible to avoid punishment? and for what he was praised today? what to do in order to be encouraged again?

Thinking about how to make your life more comfortable in order to avoid "Bumps", he suddenly realizes that there is a good way out - to tell a lie. And then the psychology of children's lies changes. Now child begins to lie deliberately, since the lie now serves as a means by which he makes his life easier. Especially when from parents he hears prohibitions all the time. The lie becomes for child habit, his protection.

Childhood lies are not evidence of moral, but rather psychological problems. baby... A liar usually suffers from a lack of attention or love from the outside parents, he has difficulty communicating with peers.

In order to understand the reasons, you need to understand what benefit he gets for himself when he lies? Maybe his lodges are a stereotype of behavior, something that he constantly sees in the people around him

Signs that child lies

Be attentive and vigilant when speaking with baby, and you will understand that he is lying.

This can be seen in the following featured:

Child tries to look away, does not look you in the eye;

When he says something, he suddenly brings his hands to his mouth; babies make this gesture more clearly, in older children the gesture becomes less expressive, although it remains noticeable;

Child begins to cough frequently during a conversation;

Touches the nose without realizing it;

Rubs eye, chin, or temple;

Touches the neck or tugs at the collar;

Rubs the earlobe;

If, talking to you, child keeps his hands in his pockets, then most likely he wants to hide something from you

These are, of course, just some of the signs. But attentive parents notice any change in the behavior of their children

In other words, you need to understand the need for children's lies.

5. Child aggression

Today we are faced with a rampant aggression not only in society, but we are also witnessing the propaganda of aggression and violence from television and computer screens. There are so many negative things in the modern world. And all this is often directly reflected in children. Intractable, impatient, aggressive, they become hostages of the conditions in which they grow and develop.

Characteristics of aggressive behavior baby.

Refuses collective play.

Doesn't understand the feelings and experiences of other children.

Often quarrels with adults.

Creates conflict situations.

Shifts the blame to others.

Fussy.

Can't adequately assess your behavior.

Has muscular tension.

Often deliberately irritating to adults.

Sleeps little and restlessly

QUESTIONNAIRE for parents"How aggressive is your child?"

Criteria for assessing aggressiveness baby

1. At times it seems that an evil spirit has taken over him.

2. He cannot remain silent when he is dissatisfied with something.

3. When someone hurts him, he always tries to repay, to give change to the offender.

4. Sometimes he wants to swear for no reason.

5. It happens that he breaks toys with pleasure, breaks something, gut.

6. Sometimes he insists on something so that others lose patience.

7. He doesn't mind teasing animals.

8. It is difficult to argue with him.

9. Very angry when he thinks that someone is making fun of him.

10. Sometimes he has a desire to do something bad, shocking others

11. In response to ordinary orders, tends to do the opposite.

12. He is often grumpy not for his age.

13. Refuses to follow the rules.

14. Likes to be the first, to command, to subjugate others.

15. Failures cause him strong irritation, a desire to find the culprit.

16. Quarrels easily, gets into a fight.

17. Does not understand the feelings and experiences of other children.

18. Often deliberately annoys adults, argues, swears with adults.

19. Does not consider with peers, does not concede, does not share.

20. Excessively mobile.

A positive answer to each proposed statement is worth 1 point.

RESULTS:

High aggressiveness - 15-20 points.

Average aggressiveness - 7-14 points.

Low aggressiveness - 1-6 points.

Prevention of child aggression.

1. Do so as to relieve the child of worries, stress, conflicts and self-doubt in the family.

2. Be an example of behavior for children nka: do not allow outbursts of anger, do not speak ill of people, do not make plans for revenge with him.

3. Discuss possible behaviors with your child. Let him say for himself when he was wrong, and why there was a quarrel or fight.

4. Do not forget once again to pity, caress and praise the child.

5. A child should grow up with confidence that he is loved, that he is the most dear, that in a difficult moment of life he can come to you for help and support.

6. Offer your child games and exercises to relieve stress, emotional relaxation, to expand the behavioral repertoire

Games and exercises for stress relief, emotional relaxation.

"Balloon"... - You are a ball. Now you are angry, more and more (balloon inflates)... There is more and more anger, you are already filled with it all - like this balloon, the same inflated. What's going to happen? A little more anger and the balloon will burst (show the child how the balloon will burst)... And if you carefully release the air, then it will remain intact, not burst.

"Kicking"... - The kid, lying on the carpet, kicks like a foal, like a big horse.

Jump like a grasshopper, goat, lion, kangaroo, raindrops.

Sit like a butterfly on a flower, a grandmother in an armchair, a mother hen on a nest, a flower on a flower bed.

Walk like a bear in the forest, a sly fox, a kitten, a turtle ...

Swim like a goldfish, an angry shark, a huge whale, a toothy crocodile ...

Fly like snowflakes, geese-swans, Baba Yaga on a broom, a small sparrow, a large eagle, a light cloud, a bee over the flowers ...

The conversation about aggression is not accidental, in our group every day we encounter aggressive behavior towards each other, conversations are held, examples are given, turning to parents and talking about the actions of children during their stay in kindergarten, you are faced with mistrust, with such phrases: "Straight, only he behaves this way!" "He learned this in kindergarten" "We don't have this in our family, it can't be", or even better, this is a question to to kid"Is the teacher telling the truth?" thereby questioning the baby all my words... And having touched on this topic, we smoothly move on to the next section.

5. Why do conflicts arise between parents and caregivers

Conflicts are a part of our life, and it is important to be able to deal with them constructively.

Educator 1. We offer to analyze pedagogical situations and discuss them together with parents and caregivers... “A young mother from a wealthy family interrogates educators: how did her child behave? Who did you play with? What did you play? What did you eat? How much did you eat? How did you sleep? And the answer is not what I would like to hear (did not play with anyone, passive, in himself)... As a result, my mother is at a loss. He proves to the educators that the child at home is completely different, asks why this is happening. " Begins to discuss this with her friends in the store and say what a bad teacher

Educator 1. The child has obvious communication difficulties. The social environment in kindergarten is the opposite of the home environment. At home, the child is erected on a pedestal. Family life revolves around him. And in kindergarten, he is the same as everyone else. The child develops an intrapersonal conflict, and he does not knows how to behave in a group. He is not trained in these skills. Parents must correct some of the child's behavioral characteristics. The priority setting should be next: the child is not the main one in the family, but a part of the family

Educator 2. Let's mentally analyze whether my child is like that, remember his advantages and disadvantages, dream how I would like to see him. To make it easier to compare negative and positive qualities, we offer you an exercise "Counter-arguments".

Here is a form. Please fill it in! (2-3 minutes)

Advantages of my child Disadvantages of my child How I would like to see your child

After parents will fill out the forms, the teacher asks leading questions: “Which column of the table was more filled? Why?

Educator 2. There is not a single person in life who would have only one advantages or only disadvantages. Wisdom parents is that seeing these or those features your child, they correlate them with the effectiveness of family education. The child is not an empty vessel. And if positive qualities are not formed in him, then bad habits and inclinations arise. If the child is lazy, it means that the family did not teach him to work; if he is aggressive, it means that he did not know the good. Parents should be well aware of the merits and demerits your child to balance them, building on the positive to help get rid of the negative. Try to look at your child with those eyes.

Concerning the topic "Conflicts between the teacher and parents» I would like to bring to your attention the conflict that occurred in our group "On Wednesday ___ called me"

6. Test "What are you parent?»

Educator. Now let's evaluate myself: what are we parents? Sometimes we are right, and sometimes we feel guilty towards the child, but we do not show it. Who wants to get an answer to this question: "What am I parent?» ! That is why you are offered a test game. Please mark those phrases that you often use when communicating with children.

1. How many times should I tell you? (2 points)

2. Please advise me. (1 point)

3. I don't know what I would do without you! (1 point)

4. And who are you was born! (2 points.)

5. What wonderful friends you have! (1 point)

6. Who do you look like? (2 points.)

7. I am at your age (2 points.)

8. You are my support and helper. (1 point)

9. What kind of friends do you have? (2 points.)

10. What are you only thinking about! (2 points)

11. What a clever girl you are! (1 point)

12. What do you think? (1 point)

13. All children are like children, and you. (2 points)

14. How smart you are! (1 point)

Now calculate the total number of points.

5 to 7 points. You live with your child in perfect harmony. You respect your child, and he truly loves and respects you. Your relationship builds his personality.

8 to 10 points. Some difficulties are outlined in the relationship with the child, misunderstanding of his problems, attempts to transfer the blame for the shortcomings in his development to the child himself.

11 points or more. You are inconsistent with your child. He respects you, although he is not always frank with you. Its development is subject to the influence of random circumstances.

This is just a hint of the actual state of affairs, because what you are parent, not knows no one is better than yourself.

7. Outcome assemblies

Educator 2. The man wanted to puzzle a sage who knew the answers to all questions. Caught a butterfly and decided: I will close my palms where the butterfly is, and ask: “O wisest one! Is the butterfly in my palms alive or dead? "... If he says "Dead", I will open my hands, and she will fly away, and if "Live", imperceptibly I will close my hands and show the dead butterfly. I came and asked. A sage replied: "Everything is in your hands, man!"... Dear parents, your child is in your hands!